Monday, November 30, 2015

angry girl journal 11.30.2015

i'm bipolar.  i don't know for sure, i haven't been diagnosed.  i'm scared to find out.  but it's the only way i know or can explain what i'm feeling.  when i was younger, they would call it, "manic-depressive", but now science, and the internet, have both come up with one word to describe it:

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i easily switch from happy to sad and back.  i have been able to successfully mask my sadness in front of others.  i have been able to show to people so far that i am well-adjusted (weird, but well-adjusted) and i have a sound mind.  lately, i don't believe it to be so.  i have trouble working.  i cannot focus.  it frustrates me that i am unable to focus on my duties.  i have been like this for a month now.  it saddens me that i seem to be unreliable at work.  it saddens me that i am able to comfortably help others with their own tasks, issues, problems, but i never seem to be able to work on my own.  it has been a struggle.  i have made people believe that i have no right to be depressed about anything.  people are so used to me so hyper that oftentimes i feel like i have no right to be unhappy or show any sign of negative emotion even when i am aching inside.  i try to shake it off and focus.  FOCUS.  i'm having trouble getting it together.  i cannot keep it together.  it makes me sad that i cannot focus on work.  when i'm alone and i can't reach out to someone, i look forward to my work to keep me preoccupied so i don't feel as sad.  after all, they say that work will always be there.  so it frustrates me that i cannot work as efficiently as i'd like.

i have been alone for a long time.  i have.  even when my parents were still alive, i felt that way.  it was a battle i was facing on my own with no one helping me, no one guiding me.  i would sink so quickly in it and fight my way to get better just as quickly so no one would see how bad it was getting.

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i don't want to be a burden to the people around me.  i don't want them to feel obliged to help me out when they don't want to.  that's why they don't ask how i am, right?  it's because they cannot be bothered to care about other people's problems apart from their own.  they make me feel like such an insignificant part of their lives and yet they come by and disrupt my equilibrium when they feel like it.  they automatically think that i can and will drop everything for them when they don't even bother to ask if i am alright.  nobody cares for me.  and yet i feel so strongly for these people.  it disappoints me so.

people are so quick to dismiss me and my pain, like it was so easy living alone.  if only i could switch it off as easy as you would say, "snap out of it!" but it's not.  it's not like i haven't tried that yet. people only reach out to me when they need me for something but nobody ever seems to ask me how i am, how i feel and how i am holding up on my own.

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i'm trying to get better.  i'm praying.  i talk to people.  i focus on work.  it's a struggle but i'm working on it. i'm not as strong as people think i am.   i will get better. 

Friday, November 27, 2015

i'd fall in love with that hippie

"When I think of why I make pictures, the only reason that I can come up with just seems that I’ve been making my way here. It seems right now that all I’ve ever done in my life has been making my way here to you." 
Robert Kincaid, The Bridges of Madison County

i just saw the musical today and i was pleasantly surprised.  before i watch a musical, i usually do some initial research about the story or the cast.  i didn't even get to see the film nor read the book. i didn't want other people's opinion get to me and affect how i saw it.  i just know that the movie starred Meryl Streep and that co-star Clint Eastwood directed it.  this production would feature Mig Ayesa and Joanna Ampil.

Mig Ayesa gained popularity in the Philippines a few years back when he placed third in the reality show Rockstar:  INXS and because he was half-Filipino. his co-star Joanna Ampil played Kim in the London and Sydney productions of Miss Saigon.  theirs is a powerful combination, along with the wonderful story and the great ensemble cast.

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the story proves to us that life is all about choices.  that love is too powerful to be measured.  oftentimes it is not about the length of time people know each other, but by how deep their connection is, and how they've grown with each other at the time they are given. Francesca and Robert only had four days, but their bond was stronger than time itself. they knew what would have happened had they been selfish but apart kept them sane and their love everlasting.  again, our choices define us.

if this movie, or the musical,  has taught me anything, apart from following your heart, it's that whenever you feel that you have to tell yourself, or reassure the other person that you are not doing anything wrong, it's highly probable that you will be, if you are not already, doing something wrong.

but then, love is never wrong.

Monday, November 23, 2015