Wednesday, September 30, 2015

before aldub, there was Penelope and Johnny

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clearly, i am one with the nation in being crazy about #aldub.  i don't follow them as much, but i do love their tandem.  Alden Richards and Maine Mendoza are a match made in tv heaven.  their love story is one to be admired, as the brief segment on them brings us back to those days when people fell in love first before they slept together.

oh, right, they spent months without even actually meeting.  you could feel the tension onscreen and everyone is rooting for them to be together.  you miss that about our society, you know, actual courtship.  nowadays, people break up without actually feeling anything for each other.  you go to bed with a person you hardly know before you start having a relationship with them.  but with Alden and Maine, you get the old-fashioned wooing, where the gentleman brings the lady flowers in her home, meeting her parents, getting to know her well and respecting her.

i like that about them.  i like that watching their relationship unfold teaches us something about our forgotten culture.  it may not be the best of circumstances (they are being watched by the People of the Philippines, after all) but the challenges both of them face is one for the books.  i'm not going to spell out those lessons, kids.   you have to read the books.


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during an outdoor session with her class, she tells the children about how their family was cursed by a witch whose daughter fell off a cliff because of a broken heart.  she was the servant girl of a blue-blooded family, the Wilherns, and she got pregnant by one of the Wilhern boys who married someone of "their own kind".  witch mother curses the family that their first-born female will have the face of a pig and only one who loves her till death do them part shall turn her back to normal.

so Penelope grew up isolated and sheltered from everyone.  thankfully, she was not snotty growing up.  she was talented, bright and she had a good heart. neither a good name, good looks, nor riches are important to her.  she valued family, and friends and even when her mother had an odd way of protecting and appreciating her, Penelope loved her just the same.

this is the movie where James McAvoy didn't show abs, Peter Dinklage had one eye before the Game of Thrones, Reese Witherspoon was on a supporting role and Christina Ricci has a snout on 75% of the film.  but it teaches you not to judge people by their outside appearance.  that you should love people for who they are and not for what they can give you.

it never fails to make me smile. before #aldub were separated by splitscreens, Penelope and Johnny were separated by a one-way mirror. he loved her without seeing her, falling for her heart, not her face.  that doesn't happen anymore these days.

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

Heneral Luna: we agree to disagree

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some loved the movie, some thought it was overly-hyped, some got their artsy-fartsy on, and some just tried to join the bandwagon even if they didn't initially get it. but what it did was bring awareness to everyone. that there is a difference in opinion about the movie and that we have the freedom to voice it out is what makes it all the more great because it is the very right those heroes fought for. it brought us to a time when you had to choose if you wanted to live or die for your country or be a turncoat. it made us ask questions, go back to reading books about our history and look up the paintings instead of worrying about how to position the camera for our next selfie. it also made us proud because Filipinos can come up with films that will make everyone think and talk about something more meaningful than kabit one-liners. love or hate the man, the film about him proved that Filipinos are capable of great things. 

Saturday, September 26, 2015

sometimes you need a little push

i made a decision today which i should've made years ago.

i'm just waiting for the bigger picture, the ultimate plan to unfold.

the Lord always provides.  i have been living alone for the last six years and never once have i gone hungry or sick or lost.  i have always felt safe in the knowledge that there is a Higher Power watching over me and keeping me company in all the challenges that i have to face.  that same Higher Power guides me and shares the highest and lowest points of my life with me.  i am never alone.

of course, i made really bad decisions and obviously trusted the wrong people when i could've used that time to fix my life.  i can never get those years back again, but it's never too late to start, right?

oh, and just for the record, it's not because the broker is cute. 

Sunday, September 20, 2015

because Tita is bi

my cousin is worried about my niece.  i'm not. i have been monitoring her for a while.  if you can call it that.  my niece/goddaughter is showing tendencies. i personally am not alarmed.  i think it's great that she is open to diversity.

i truly understand my cousin's concerns.  she fell in love and married with the first man in her life and even with the time they spent together, their relationship fell apart.  she's had a rough path with only my niece to keep her going and be the better mother she wasn't before. she wants me to have this conversation with my niece because i'm a spinster (haha) and while we don't talk about it, they know that i swing that way.  or they think i do because i hang out with people from the community.  you know, that community.

i love my niece.  i worry about her constantly.  i would like to take care of her, give her guidance and be there for her but i don't think i can replace my cousin.  i don't think i will be such a hot parent.  but i do know i can be a great buddy to her.  especially if she does eventually swing that way.  i mean, it's not easy, this lifestyle, and i have mixed emotions as to what type of choices she might make.  this is not just a fad, after all, and i don't want her to think that she has to be that way just because. i want her to be true to what she is and i want her to be happy with her choices, because they will define her.

it's a big responsibility, i realize, when people look up to you.  i've always been wary of my actions, i've always tried to do what i think is right.  but it's different now, when somebody else is watching and you don't want to be a bad example to them.  you want to be a better version of yourself because you have someone else relying on you and you don't want to let them down.

i don't want to let my niece down.  i want her to be happy.  she will stumble and fall.  she will make mistakes and get hurt.  but i want her to be proud of who she is, and respect others and be happy for whatever. i know i am.

Friday, September 18, 2015

some things should be left hidden

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my friend has been telling me to catch the show for a long time and i haven't been able to, seeing i was so obsessed with watching Person of Interest.  over the past weekends, i have been playing catch up to see the show to get to know Ray Donovan and his dysfunctional family.

Ray is a Hollywood "fixer", working for a law firm that represents the rich and famous.  he takes care of his elder brother, Terry, who developed Parkinson's Disease due to being hit in the head several times as a young boxer and his alcoholic sexual anorexic younger brother, Brendan, who like him, got molested by the priest in their community. they have a black half-brother, Darryl, who plays his share of troublemaking.    they all have an estranged relationship with their father, Mickey, played by Jon Voight.

while Ray Donovan has a great story, my main reason for watching is to catch a glimpse of her:

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Kate Moennig plays Lena, one of the "investigators" working for Ray.  while she had a very violent past (she still occasionally punches people in the face to put them in their place), Ray believed in her and gave her a job, which is why i love this show.

all the things that happen in the show may or may not really happen in real life, although most celebrities now are very open about their views on life and their sexuality, some still have to put up a facade in front of the bigger crowd so there may really be people like Ray, Avi and Lena in real life, making sure that the skeletons in the closet, bodies buried, stay hidden.  

Thursday, September 03, 2015

these are all the many changes in my life

"Lady, I'm your knight in shining armor and I love you"
when i was twelve, a guy eight years my senior began to show his interest in me.  i didn't think i was pretty.  i still don't.  he used to sing this song to me, along with Changes In My Life, another hit in the 80s.
"I was not so happy, being lonely, living without you"
maybe if i wasn't so eager to have a relationship then, i would've realized that he could've been sued because of his attraction to me.  i was a minor, after all.  i just looked like i couldn't wait to grow up.  if only i knew then.  thankfully, he didn't try to make a pass at me.  he only made secret glances from afar.   the song still brings a smile to my face whenever i hear it, and he is still the first one who comes to mind.

i may have been young then, and infatuated with the idea of love, but i'm glad you respected me, because i was young, and you treated me like a lady.  it all went downhill after that.